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WOW, what a presentation! Elayne has been there and done it — she walks her talk. The session was a combination of energy, enthusiasm and great content and left me wanting more.

The biggest benefit to me is discovering how to be more attractive to the media. My appearances are more effective and lead to repeat requests. Best of all, these strategies increased my
business.
Frank Furness, CSP, International Speaker
London, United Kingdom
www.frankfurness.com

You were radiant on stage and your message transcended into the entire program.
Lynn Price, Social Entrepreneur, Speaker and Author
www.lynnprice.com

Elayne, your Rejecting Rejection program for National Speakers Association/Colorado is awesome. Your bold and daring talk touched my heart. Indeed, you went straight to the heart of the matter.

Your DC-3 story alone is worth the price of admission. It is exhilarating to share in the triumph of your pilgrimage. Your story is wonderfully inspiring and healing.

Thank you, Elayne, for having the courage to speak about rejection. Especially how the fear of rejection holds us back.

Thank you again for highlighting the importance of dealing with our rejection experiences. Thank you for showing us how to move out of the rejection shadow and into the light.
Loren C. (Paul) Due,
Fort Collins, CO
www.pauldue.com

It was a touching privilege to be present when Elayne Savage gave a profound, meaningful, and respectful invocation for the National Speakers Association's 2008 Winter Meeting.
Naomi Rhode, CSP, CPAE Speakers Hall of Fame
Past President National Speakers Association
www.SmartHealth.com

Dr. Savage, I wish I had words to describe the ways YOUR words affect me each day. I thoroughly enjoyed your Dealing with Difficult People program at the National School Boards Association Conference.

I'm impressed by your ease in presenting this valuable information. I especially love your suggestion about throwing away resentment. The image of you tossing it away still stays with me!

Another valuable take-away is remembering to acknowledge the impact of life experiences on present-day interactions.

Thank you so much for a truly rewarding experience. I only wish there had been more time to explore some of your other unique ideas.
Veronica Barbato
Retired Educator and present School Board Member
Rose Tree Media School District, Media PA

Elayne, thank you for presenting your engaging workshop, ‘Getting Your Foot in the Door.’ Appreciative comments from Conference attendees praised your knowledge, energy, enthusiasm and humor. Participants especially welcomed ideas on communicating non-verbally, diffusing intense situations, and discovering simple ideas that make a big difference.
Warren J. Clark
Vice President, Operations
Workers’ Compensation Insurance Rating Bureau of California

Elayne, you are like a pixie spreading shimmering golden dust around. You have an amazing ability to take what you discovered and fashion it into magnificent learning tools for others. I loved, loved, loved your 'Get Out of Your Own Way' program..
Rosalie Moscoe, RNCP
Wellness & Nutritional Consultant
Toronto, Ontario
rosalie@healthinharmony.com
www.healthinharmony.com

Elayne, you are great! Your insight and wisdom are apparent. You taught me a great deal in a short amount of time about how to position myself and gain visibility. Your ideas are powerful and easy to implement.
Mike Robbins, Speaker. Coach and Author of Focus on the Good Stuff: The Power of Appreciation

Elayne's insights in her Rejecting Rejection program for NSA/Colorado really struck a chord with us.

When it comes to rejection, we've been there done that. So has Elayne and she's brave enough to admit it. We love that in a speaker!
Sheryl Kay & Michael Benidt Golden Compass, Inc.
Hidden Treasures of the Internet
Broomfield, CO www.goldencompass.com

Rejection is a topic not typically discussed at business and professional association meetings. Thanks to Elayne Savage, it is now!

Rejection issues can undermine our successes, and Elayne is masterful at creating a safe, supportive environment to share these concerns. I'm very grateful for her presence, passion and commitment. Most importantly, she helps us move through our rejection dilemmas towards more productive relationships.
Mitchell Friedman, APR
Principal, Mitchell Friedman Communications
Lecturer, Communication Studies, University of San Francisco
President, National Speakers Association/Northern California Chapter

Dr. Elayne Savage is a compelling presenter with expertise and enthusiasm. For several years it was my pleasure to work with her as she assisted students, instructors and staff in addressing cross-cultural communications issues. Elayne customized her presentations and contributed valuable solutions.

I strongly recommend Elayne Savage.

Quentin C. Burrows
Director of UC Berkeley Extension's
International Diploma Programs

Elayne, thank you for the valuable information in your presentation, ‘Getting Your Foot in the Door.’ Your ideas are making a big difference in my approach. I especially appreciate the powerful technique you presented for putting people at ease with "kind eyes," and I plan to use it immediately.
Aymee Abreu
Associate Field Representative
Workers Compensation Insurance Rating Bureau
of California (WCIRB)

 

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Elayne Savage Presents

Elayne Savage Presents
Keynotes - Workshops - Seminars
Breakout Sessions - Retreats
Consulting - Communication Coaching

Target Audience
Professional and Trade Associations, Corporations, Agencies, Women in the Workplace, (See Client List)

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Elayne Savage speaking at a General Session of the NSA Winter Conference

Programs for Improving Personal and Professional
Relationships

'Breathing Room:
Helping Couples Communicate and Connect In These Tough Times
'
Fears generated in this uncertain economy put added stress on couples' relationships. And, in turn, work pressures create even more tension at home. Elayne Savage presents 'Relationship Resilience’ solutions for weathering this economic storm and any other turbulence - now or in the future. You'll improve your communication skills, overcome rejection, and renew emotional closeness. And you’ll learn how to enhance teamwork, connection, trust and respect.


'Don't Take It Personally!®
The Art of Dealing With Rejection
'
Who hasn't felt the sting of rejection? Our feelings can get hurt so easily – an unreturned phone call, the disappointment and disillusionment of unfulfilled anticipation. It's hard not to take these things personally. You can learn to deal with these feelings of rejection by creating options for yourself. By understanding the forms rejection takes and where it comes from, you can overcome the fear of it.


'Handling Toxic People And Difficult Situations – Don't Take It Personally!'®
Isn't it annoying when someone has an "attitude," takes all the credit for a project or blames others for their own mistakes? Isn't it frustrating dealing with complainers, back-stabbers and saboteurs? Discover effective ways to sidestep misunderstandings, anger, and resentment. By recognizing and appreciating style differences you are able to avoid "personality conflicts." You can develop strategies to lessen your exasperation and not take things so personally!


'Grandma Passes Down More Than Her China – A Fresh Perspective On Diversity'
Grandma passes down more than just her china – and Grandpa does too. Each family has different beliefs, values, expectations, fears, and ways of doing things, which are passed down from generation to generation and infiltrate our work and personal relationships. This innovative diversity training presents effective ways to respect those differences and enhance your relationships.


'Why Can't You Read My Mind?
Handling Expectations And Disappointments'
Unstated wishes and unrealistic expectations are set-ups for disappointments in romantic, work, or friendship relationships. Get your relationships back on track by giving clear messages rather than hints or indirect requests. Learn Seven Surefire Ways to Keep from Getting Disappointed and how to ask for what you need.


'Managing Misunderstandings and Missteps – Sharpening Your Communication Skills'
Learn effective ways to respect style differences, avoid conflicts, handle stress and apprehension, recognize your needs and maximize your options. Discover how to feel "heard" and not "hurt" in the process. Yes, it is possible to change your response to another person instead of trying to change that person's style. Although we can't always manage others' actions, we can manage our own reactions. Elayne Savage shows you how to redirect your energy and make space for productive personal and productive relationships.


'Get Out Of Your Own Way – Overcoming The Fears That Hold You Back'
Does fear of rejection stop you in your tracks? Do you find yourself freezing up or dragging your feet? Let's take a look at what happens to your ability to follow through on that proposal, that e-mail, that phone call, or that recent romantic encounter. Maybe it's the fear of failure or it's evil twin the fear of rejection. Could it even be a fear of success? Understand where these roadblocks come from and what to do about them. Learn some techniques for putting yourself "out there."


'Creating Breathing Room In Personal And Professional Relationships'
How can you learn to juggle needs for closeness and space in your relationships? How can you insure that resentments don't take up so much space that there's barely room for connection and respect? See how to manage misunderstandings, anger and resentments. Understand how cultural, generational, and gender style differences create relationship "hot spots."


'Recovering From Audience Rejection – Conquering Self-Consciousness'
Giving a presentation before any audience is a sure-fire way to activate rejection hot buttons. Here are tips and strategies for "facing the evil triplets:" fear of rejection, fear of failure, and fear of disappointment. >>Top


For Singles and Couples

'Breathing Room:
Helping Couples Communicate and Connect In These Tough Times'
Fears generated in this uncertain economy put added stress on couples' relationships. And, in turn, work pressures create even more tension at home. Elayne Savage presents 'Relationship Resilience’ solutions for weathering this economic storm and any other turbulence - now or in the future. You'll improve your communication skills, overcome rejection, and renew emotional closeness. And you’ll learn how to enhance teamwork, connection, trust and respect.


'Need Some Breathing Room?'
Intimacy is a balancing act–leaving most of us teetering between needs for closeness and needs for distance. When hurts and resentments take up so much space, there's barely room for connection and intimacy. You find out what space struggles in relationships are really about, what intimacy is . . . and isn't, and ways to balance needs for both closeness and space. This workshop is not just for couples. It is also for singles wanting a relationship and wondering why things never seem to work out.


'Horror Vacui – How We Create "Space Fillers" In Our Relationships'
Horror Vacui means the fear of empty spaces. Stress, words, anger, resentment, overwork, and dozens of other "space-fillers" take up huge amounts of room in relationships, crowding out connection and intimacy. What if you find yourself with some extra time or space or silence around you? Do you find yourself filling it with words, sounds, thoughts, things, or people? How do these space fillers serve as distractions and barriers to closeness? This workshop gets you thinking differently about "space," "space needs," and "space fillers."


'Breathing Room For Singles –
Making Space For A Relationshiop'
Do you yearn to become part of a couple but keep bumping into those disconcerting "space" issues-wondering why things never seem to work out? Do you find that hurt feelings and resentments take up so much space in relationships, there 's barely room for intimacy? Elayne Savage shows how to recognize what the space struggles in relationships are really about, and how to balance your needs for both closeness and space. >>Top


Identifying and Developing Your Expertise

'Getting Published, Getting Interviewed, Getting Known'
Everything you want and need to know about the how-tos of writing, "pitching" and publishing articles and books.


'Positioning Yourself As An Expert'
Liberate your power to position yourself as an expert and get "out there." Discover how to share your expertise with the public by giving radio, TV and press interviews.


'What Holds You Back?'
Does fear of rejection stop you in your tracks? Do you find yourself freezing up or dragging your feet? Maybe it's the fear of failure or it's evil twin, the fear of success. Might it even be a fear of success? Understand where these roadblocks come from and take home some techniques for putting yourself "out there." >>Top

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