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Elayne is a great guest and valuable resource — knowledgeable and lively — she can help your audience understand the subtle and not-so-subtle effects of rejection and taking things personally. She has been interviewed on a variety of subjects, from teen issues, men's health, sex (or the lack of it), romantic relationships.

Biographical Sketch: Dr. Elayne Savage is a communication coach, widely recognized for her expertise on rejection and taking things personally. She is the internationally known author of two popular books published in 9 languages: Don't Take It Personally! The Art of Dealing with Rejection and Breathing Room – Creating Space to Be a Couple (New Harbinger Publications.) She holds a Ph.D. in Family Psychology and has over twenty-five years of coaching consulting, clinical, and experience. More information here. More information here.

Popular interview topics include:

  • Handling Rejection – Personal and Professional
  • 10 things NOT to Say or Do at Family Get-togethers
  • How to Deal with "The Rages"
    • Road rage/Air rage/Sports rage
    • Political baiting, bickering, and taking things personally
    • Workplace Harassment
    • Peer Rejection/Schoolyard Bullying
  • Relationship Quandaries
    • How to Handle Hurt Feelings and Misunderstandings – Don't Take It Personally!
    • Ways to Create 'Breathing Room' in Relationships-
      Balancing Needs for Closeness and Space
    • "I Hate You, I Wish You Were Dead!" – Teen/Parent Conflicts
    • Stealing Time – 10 Great Ways to Connect and Stay Connected
      with Your Romantic Partner
    • 7 Sure–Fire Ways to Get Disappointed in Relationships

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Suggested Interview Questions for Elayne Savage

  • What are some of the ways we take things personally?
  • Why, as adults, do we continue to take things so personally?
  • What is the relationship between negative childhood messages and sensitivity to rejection?
  • You emphasize that different people have different styles of communication. How can we avoid feeling rejected by someone whose style differs from ours?
  • In your book, you differentiate between healthy boundaries and solid walls. What is the difference?
  • What is the relationship between taking things personally and poor personal boundaries?
  • We often erected protective barriers in childhood to avoid feeling rejected. Can't they still be useful?
  • When do we know that emotional reactions to affronts are appropriate?
  • What healthy substitutes do you recommend for our painful but well-worn reaction to others?
  • What are the 10 things you should never say or do during holiday get-togethers?
  • What's the best way to deal with gift-giving dilemmas?
  • What are the best ways to protect yourself from hurtful words and actions?
  • Hearing "no" can be painful. What are some ways to cope with this?
  • Saying "no" to someone can be difficult. What are some ways to feel better about it?
  • Which techniques can help us to take real professional risks?
  • In your book you talk about mealtime rejection messages. What are some examples?
  • What techniques do you suggest for asking for what we need?
  • What are some of the "space-fillers" that challenge relationships?
  • Explain how "hidden agendas" and "secret contracts" affect relationships.

(These are just a sampling. Contact Elayne for a complete list of suggested questions.)

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