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Don't Take It Personally!

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Don't Take It Personally!

The Art of Dealing with Rejection

Who hasn't felt the sting of rejection? It doesn't take much for your feelings to get hurt – a look or a tone of voice or certain words can set you ruminating for hours on what that person meant. An unreturned phone call or a disappointing setback can knock you for a loop. It's all too easy to take these things personally, but you can learn to deal effectively with feelings of rejection and create positive options for yourself.

Don't Take It Personally! explores the many forms of rejection, where it comes from, and how to overcome the fear of it. Most of all, you'll learn tools for stepping back from those overwhelming feelings and allowing space to make choices about how you want to respond.

  • Understand the effect that anxiety, frustration, hurt and anger have on your interactions with others
  • De-personalize your responses and establish safe boundaries that protect you from hurt
  • Practice making choices about the thoughts you think and the ways you respond to stressful situations
  • Understand and overcome fear of rejection in personal and work relationships

Elayne Savage explores with remarkable sensitivity the myriad of rejection experiences we experience with friends, co-workers, lovers, and family. Because her original ideas have inspired readers around the world, Don't Take It Personally! has been published in six languages.

What people are saying about Don't Take It Personally!

"Never before has the impact of rejection been explored to this degree. Don't Take It Personally! offers much reassurance and inspiration."
-Susan Jeffers, Ph.D., author of Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway and End the Struggle and Dance with Life.

"This wonderfully readable book offers wise counsel and information...useful insights into an issue that impacts each of our lives-rejection."
-Judy Tatelbaum, M.S.W., author of The Courage to Grieve

"Elayne Savage is right on the money here. Distinguish yourself by buying this book and you'll never feel rejected again."
-Winston Groom, author of Forest Gump: A Novel

"This is a psychological education at its best. Elayne Savage has provided a thoughtful, good-humored, original treatment of a crucial life problem."
-Elaine Aron, Ph.D., author of The Highly Sensitive Person

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